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Should You Come Out to Your Doctor?

Talking honestly and openly with your doctor is important for your health. And it’s equally important for your doctor to be supportive of your sexual orientation and gender identity. That’s why if you’re an LGBTQ patient and your doctors don’t know it, coming out to them may help you get the care you need.

Granted, for many, coming out to their doctor can be a difficult conversation to have—and for good reason. Research shows that LGBTQ patients often face stigma, discrimination, and even abuse. Nevertheless, there are a number of benefits to opening up with your doctor. Read on to learn more and for tips on how to do it.

Why should I come out to my doctor?

LGBTQ individuals face unique health risks, such as higher smoking rates, a greater risk of suicide attempts, and a higher chance for getting a sexually transmitted disease. Coming out to your doctor can be beneficial in a number of ways—for you as an individual and for the LGBTQ community as a whole. For example, it may:

Should I be worried about my confidentiality?

You may be concerned that your doctor will share information about your sexual orientation or gender identity with others. Regardless of your age (even if you are younger than 18 years), doctors are required by law and policies to keep your information private.

However, they will not keep information confidential if you are being hurt by someone or if you are going to hurt yourself or someone else. There are state laws that require doctors to share information if there is a possibility that someone is getting hurt. Talk with your doctor about what information will be shared and what can be kept private.

Tips for finding and coming out to your doctor

Here are some tips to help you find and be open with your doctor.

“I went out of my way making phone calls and spending time to try to find doctors and facilities that would not reject me based on my LGBTQ status. I typically choose my doctors based on the recommendations of friends and colleagues.”

Laura M.

Dr. Kevin Williams is board-certified in internal medicine and is the Chief Medical Officer for rare disease at Pfizer Inc.


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